We want different things. How do we decide this together?

A fair agenda for one conversation: both positions, where you really differ, and how you’ll decide.


When to use
When a shared decision keeps turning into the same argument.
Time
10 min

The prompt

My partner and I need to decide . I want . They want , as far as I understand it. Don’t take my side. Help me prepare one calm conversation, as a single page with three parts. First, each position stated the way its owner would put it, with a note wherever my account of their view sounds unfair or thin. Second, the disagreement sorted into facts we could check and differences in what each of us values. Third, a 30-minute agenda that ends with a fair way to decide if we still disagree. You’ve only heard my side, so finish with what you’d want to ask them.

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