Who do I envy, and what is that telling me?

I’ve been feeling envious of . I’d rather use that than be ashamed of it. Help me work out what the envy is pointing at. Ask me up to four questions, one at a time, to separate the part I actually want from the rest of the package: the hours, the trade-offs, the attention, the life around it. Then tell me, briefly, what I really want, which parts of their situation I would not want, and one move I could make this month toward the real thing. If the envy seems to be about something other than what I named, say that, and say how sure you are. Be direct. No padding and no reassurance I did not ask for.